A Year to be Thankful

 

This week we give thanks to the Lord for all that he has given us. What are you thankful for that you normally wouldn’t even think about?

I want to give thanks for my mother who passed away 2 weeks ago. She was such a special woman for me and my family. When I was single for all of those years, she kept my little family together in more ways that I can say. Having someone to lean on in my worst times was something that I cannot thank God enough for.

The past year had been one of my families worst. We have been in two different court systems for custody of all of our kids.  I cannot tell you how many sleepless nights we have had this year. At one point I thought that we were being punished. Now, although we are not finished with court, I thank God for our struggles. It has made me appreciate my children, step children, my husband, my marriage and those families and friends that I have found are truly on our side.

For all of these things I give thanks.

When things are tough, you learn how to do things that you never knew that you could do. My husband was on temporary disability for 6 months, and it took 8 weeks to get the first check. Budgeting became something that we had to rely on. How do you feed 2 adults and 4 kids on $50 for several days? Its hard, I won’t lie to you, but where there is a God there is a way! I am thankful that we learned to stretch our dollars as far as possible, and when they didn’t go far enough, we had amazing family and friends that helped us when we couldn’t help ourselves. Thank you God!

I am so very thankful for our health. Other than some accidents that all kids have from time to time, our kids have had only one sick child visit in almost 2 years. I thank God for our health and for guiding me toward using essential oils to keep my family healthy.

Through all of this struggle i have still managed to keep my sanity! I cannot tell you that it was easy, and its even harder after loosing my mother. I know that when I gave up stress for Lent, it prepared me for what I went through. I cannot say that I did not have stress, but I did have the skills to cope with the stress that I have never had before. I didn’t give it all to God before as I do now. I know that my God is in control  no matter what happens in my life. I give thanks for this!

What I want you to remember is that no matter how hard your life gets, look for something to be thankful for each day. God has given us life! He has given his son for our salvation! Be thankful this week as we remember  all of these things, but also be thankful each day as we go forward through the holiday season and beyond.

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5 tips to a stress free holiday for the blended family.

 

 

 

 

When there are step children and step parents involved things get a lot more complicated, but when you throw in the extended step families, holidays can get downright chaotic.

  1. Make sure that you have a calendar with all of the dates and times of the events that your family has coming up over the holidays. Be sure to mark school, church events, special movies and most especially when you will have the kids. Share this information with grandparents, aunts, uncles and the other set(s) of parents and step parents.
  2. Talk with your spouse about what the most important things are for each person in your family to attend. Sometimes you need to be in one place while the other parent is in another place. This happens a lot more often with kids in separate school districts. Some things you will not be able to attend, but make sure that the kids all understand what you can, and cannot attend up front. If you are not sure if you can attend, let it be a surprise instead of disappointing the kids. If you have grandparents nearby involve them in activities that you may not be able to make the date. Grandparents love being involved with their grandkids.
  3. Talk to the kids about what’s important to them. You may have wanted to plan a night of caroling or viewing Christmas lights, but if the kids would rather stay in and have cocoa and watch a Christmas special a family night at home may be what you all need at a busy time. Kids, especially those who don’t live with you most of the time, want to spend time with you, and could care less if it’s a “big deal” as long as you put in time with them.
  4. If you or your kids feel like one relative or group of relatives treats the step kids differently when it comes to gift giving, than they do with their blood relatives, ask for a new tradition of going to an event together, family passes to a theme park, or just not exchange gifts. No one wants to feel like they aren’t being treated the same as their peers, especially when it comes to blended families.
  5. Make new traditions while preserving the traditions that the whole family enjoys. Maybe your kids enjoyed the tradition of chopping down their own tree each year before your divorce, if this isn’t possible for your blended family pick something new to try out like making a Christmas video for the family blog.

No matter what you do this holiday season, be sure to include the kids in your decisions. Whether it is what they want on the menu for Thanksgiving, or if they would like to go to their grandparents church service to be near their other parent, let them have a voice in your blended family.

What have you accomplished lately?

As a housewife, do you have a sense of accomplishment? Do you feel like your husband provides everything for your family, and you just clean up all of the messes left behind?

You may feel accomplished by getting out of bed at a decent time, or making a wonderful dinner for your husband. I know that as a WAHM, I need that “W” work for me to feel as if I have accomplished anything during any given time.

Living as a single, self sufficient mother for many years, its HARD to feel accomplishment by just sitting around home all day. Even if that sitting around home includes shuttling kids to and from school, helping with homework, cleaning house, mending clothes or any of those every day tasks that we are use to as moms. When I don’t feel like I am doing something for those outside of my home or helping my family financially, I don’t feel accomplishment.

It doesn’t take a lot of work to put into a business at home. Let me rephrase that. It doesn’t take a lot of time, if you do things right. An hour here  and there throughout the week can bring in hundreds if not thousands of dollars into your home. Its all about finding what’s right for you.

For me its working with a team of Young Living distributors and talking about and on Social Media during the day. A few minutes a day…not all day. I have made money online in many different ways, but I haven’t always loved my job. Why work from home doing something that you don’t like? Well I did for years, until I found my place.

What do I do all week? I talk to people like you! Mostly housewives with kids. I talk to them on Twitter, Facebook,Pinterest,  by email and through my blog. That’s really all that I do. Most people think that I must sit at home online all day, working hard and getting a headache from my computer screen. Nope. Most of the time I don’t even turn on my computer! My iPhone is my best friend.

I sit at football practice and tweet, I Facebook from cheer practice. I connect with business partners while I’m in the checkout line. It only takes a few minutes a day, and I don’t miss anything that my kids are doing because I have to work. And for someone who use to work every weekend and miss almost every event, this mama appreciates her job that travels everywhere.

Next weekend I will be traveling to Orlando with a great group of business leaders, to learn how to do more from my smartphone so that I don’t miss the big game, or my daughter’s first dance. Gone is the day of sitting in front of a computer screen or making calls to potential customers every day.

Its a new day and age. If you don’t have a smartphone, get one. If you have one, you are ready to start working from home in only a few minutes each day. Are you watching me on Facebook or getting me in your email each week? Do it now!

Combating Stress and Depression

 

Christi Daugherty

A few weeks ago I decided to give up depression for Lent. I’ve done pretty well, although some days are tougher than others. Like today. As you can see by the picture above, my life can get a little hectic, especially with all of the kids at home. I love my big family, but some days can really test a mama’s sanity!

Some of the biggest symptoms that I have to deal with are migraines, sleeping way to many hours or sleeping not enough hours. I’m not sure which one of those is worse on my family. What I can share is how I have dealt with some of these things over the past few weeks, and some for months.

My biggest ally is my tub! My tub is my biggest escape from stress. Add some aromatherapy and it can be bliss! One of my favorite essential oils is Joy. Can you imagine just a couple drops from a little brown bottle making all the difference in your day? Well this one really makes a huge difference in me when I’m having signs of depression. I wear this one as purfume on most days, but on those extra hard days I do something special.

What you will need:

  • 5 drops Joy Essential Oil Blend
  • 1/4 Cup Coconut Oil
  • 1/4 Cup Unscented Body Wash

Take these 3 ingredients and whip them with your mixer until they become a nice, thick bath foam. Add a couple table spoons to your bath and relax! Store in a glass container.

 

Some of the other oils that I have been using are Stress Away Roll-on, Peace and Calming, and En-R-Gee.

When I’m having one of “those moments” where I really just want to scream, I grab my Stress Away Roll-On and roll in across my wrists. I like to smell this one because its a warm vanilla scent. It almost instantly calms whatever is going on in my head. I can’t speak highly enough about this oil blend! I want to sniff it all day! And sometimes I just uncap it and take a nice whiff. Its so luxurious!

Peace and Calming is an oil blend that we have been using to calm my daughter from her nightmares and get her back to sleep in the middle of the night. I take a drop and rub it into her feet and on her wrists. She likes to keep her wrists near her nose so that she can inhale the scent, which calms her until she can fall asleep. Normally this only takes a few minutes. So mama keeps this one on her bed side table for the same exact thing. I use this oil almost every night on myself to help me sleep. Or when I wake up in the middle of the night and cant’ seem to calm my brain from talking to itself.

Now on those nights that I’ve been up reading the Hunger Games Trilogy or just can’t seem to get enough sleep, I use En-R-Gee. You know that mama’s work is never done, so I certainly need a pick me up. I can’t say that this oil smells amazing to me, because it doesn’t. Not to start with anyways. It takes a few minutes, then I start searching for that yummy scent. A lot of oil blends are like that, kind of like perfume they change with your body chemistry. Anyways, on to the story. When I use this oil blend, I kinda look back at my day and see all of the extra things that I’ve done without noticing that I had that much energy to do them. I don’t feel like I’ve drank one of those energy drinks that everyone is talking about, or even a cup of coffee. I just have natural energy that helps me get through the day. I just have to make sure that I don’t use this too late in the day, or I will be reading until 4am again!

I can’t say enough about these oils and combating my depression. It has helped tremendously. The hardest thing for me is to remember to pick them up and use them. I keep these and a few more sitting in places that I know I will use them most often. I keep En-R-Gee on my desk, and Peace and Calming beside my bed. I think that is what’s essential to using them when you need them most, keep them handy. It’s always the simple things, right?

 

You can find all of these oils on the Depression Relief Page.

You were designed to do great things!

I love to tell my children that they are designed to do great things by an amazing God. They start glowing when I tell them this, wouldn’t you?

When is the last time someone told YOU that you were designed to do great things? I was on an amazing training call this past weekend and that’s the overwhelming idea that I keep hearing in my head.

Some days we all feel like that we are just some kid’s mother, or someone to wash the dishes. The reality is that you are more than just some kid’s mother. You inspire that child every day in some way or another. You may be the future president’s mother! What if your child finds the cure for cancer? Or better yet, what if your child has a grandbaby for you?! That’s what I’m looking forward to!

You are someone that God designed to do something special. You know deep down in your heart what that special thing is. Today it may be giggling with your toddler and tomorrow it may be inspiring someone to live the life they were designed for, you never know.

Take today to pray about what God wants you to do with your future. Ask him for guidance. Make a list of the things that you come up with that you want to accomplish. Then I want you to make a to do list with what you need to do to get there. This is going to be a long list. But do it. It’s worth it.

Now Today work on 1 or 2 things on that list. Even if making the list is one of those things. Now I want you to take this step every day. Accomplish one more thing that moves you closer to doing what God has designed you to do.

Share this with the world! Share your dreams. Tell your family and your friends and especially tell God. You WILL find a way! When you get God involved, your dreams will be bigger than you can imagine right now.

This is my prayer for you, to push through your obstacles and grow into what God wants you to be, live your dreams!

What season are you in?

I know that I’ve heard that there are seasons of life. Mother’s with young children know this more than anyone. I’m not a mom of young children, I’m a mom of tweens. That gives me a little more freedom.

I’m a WAHM, or work at home mom for those not used to the lingo. I started Life Essential Oils a few weeks ago, but its slow moving of course. We thought that things would be settled by now with my husband’s job, but alas they are not. The question now is what to do next?

We had a huge plan for what we were doing, but with one change in his job I realize that it may not be our season in life to do what really want to do. It kinda sucks. But, we do know that God has the ultimate plan. Sometimes its just hard to swallow.

I made a commitment to myself and a few others last night, and I’m going to keep that commitment. However there are other things that I may have to change. It’s so hard for me to commit to anything lately. My plans always get changed before I get started. I’m in a “its not fair” mood. It will change.

So what season are you in?

After School Snacks with #MurphyUSA

We started back to school last week, and ever since the kids have wanted new after school snacks. Every day the kids ask “What do we have to eat?!” Well today my husband and I took the kids to MurphyUSA.

My daughter LOVES Smart Water, and she was so happy that they had it today. She loves to take it to cheer practice, or just have it any time. Daddy was glad that it wasn’t expensive, but that’s why he said “Ok” to the trip to MurphyUSA for our after school snacks.

Daddy even picked up a bottle of Vitamin Water for his before night shift tonight. He loves getting something like this before working outside in the Alabama heat.

The happiest of all was Austin, who did a video interview with me about Slim Jim. This kid had a blast, and really is a Slim Jim lover, as is everyone else in our family.

And this is my first try at putting a story up on thisMoment, so I wanted to share it with you also!

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So what are your values?

day one hundred and sixty four
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I was asked what my values are about a week ago, and well I knew but how do you put something like that on paper. Of course the first thing I thought of was my Faith. Then I started panicking. I’m so bad at this type of thing, I needed ideas.

So I asked around and 2 others were kinda in my same boat. LaDonna from Just Our Thoughts sent me some links that talked about finding your values. I later did some research on my own and let me just say, there are a lot of long lists out there.

So I know when you finish this you are gonna do the same thing. Google list of values and see what you come up with. Just remember that you don’t want to get real specific. Think about it like this. You want your list of values to have “Family” not “spending one on one time with my children”. Clear as mud?

One of the things you can do is make a huge list of what you value. Then think of what things go together. If you have 5 things that all go under “Family” then make a new list that’s more Macro than Micro.

My list of values may or may not be the same as yours, but what I do suggest is to take your final list and pick out what the top few are. I picked 3. This isn’t written in stone, but its really not something that you can goof up that bad. You can always change this later if you feel like something doesn’t belong there or something else you didn’t think you valued enough to make your Top Values List.

My Top 3 Values

  1. Faith
  2. Family
  3. Achievement

The driving force in my life, no matter if I have tried to put it on the back burner or not is my faith. My family is second only because I cannot appreciate or love my family without my faith in God. My 3rd value is achievement. As much as I’d like to say it isn’t, that does have some financial undertones, but I do not only want to have financial achievements. I value achieving anything for the first time whether its getting a new plugin to work for my blog or a new recipe that my family loves. I value achievement in a lot of areas of my life.

Please share your values with us.

Growing up

My little girl is growing up. There are only a few weeks left in 3rd grade for my youngest child. It makes those “BLOND” hairs in my head really mean something.

This is my child with spunk. She’s shy with my mother in law but can still beat up her brothers, at the same time. ( at ages 11 and 13 those boys don’t have a chance even when combining forces)

2 weeks ago before spring break, she had 2 map tests on the USA. She came home with a 96 on both tests! I was so nervous for her, but she learned those states faster than I ever could have, and I was an “A” student. Kayla struggles with a lot, or she has up until now. It seems that things are turning around.

This week she’s learning long division. wow! I think in another day or two, it will be something she enjoys. I love watching her eyes light up when she learns something new, when it really clicks.

My baby girl is my heart. She tells me things that the boys would never share. Makeup and nails, flip-flops and dresses. We have so many things in common now, and each day it seems that we find a little more.

Oh how my little girl makes my heart pitter-patter!

Wrapping up Halloween